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How to be intimate with God through Prayer


During my early walk with Jesus, my relationship with God was reading my bible, going to church, fellowship and watching sermons online.  I was excited about God, and full of fervor, yet there was something missing.  While all of the above are amazing, the christian life cannot be lived without intimacy with God through prayer and fasting.

Intimacy with God through prayer is in many ways the silver bullet to walking out the christian life, yet many christians don’t know how to be intimate with God.  While there isn’t really a how to process for getting to know God, I wanted to share somethings that I learned from intimacy with the Father, and some practical things you can do to cultivate a life of prayer and intimacy with God.

What you get from knowing God through prayer

When I council a new believer, my goal is to push this person into a personal relationship with the Father through agency of Holy Spirit.  God is always near us, and so we must position our hearts to receive the awareness of the Father by faith.  If the Holy Spirit doesn’t become your teacher, advocate, and helper, you simply won’t live a full Christian life.  Holy Spirit will teach us all things (John 14:26), He is the comforter, and to walk with Jesus we must by faith approach Him, and learn to hear His voice through constant contact.

A side note on hearing god’s voice.  

God is easy to spot, because He sounds like the word.  If my mother called me from an unknown number I would recognize her by her voice, because I have taken the time to know her.  That is exactly the way it is by hearing God’s voice through prayer, spend the time and grow.

(When I began my walk with Jesus, I did the same way many of us do.  You discover this brand new father you have, and begin to seek to know who He is, and what He has for you.  I read the scriptures with an incredible hunger, went to bible studies, and sought spiritual brothers and sisters for their wisdom and council.  What wasn’t so easy for me, was learning about who God was through prayer.)

“And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.”
John 17:3 NKJV

2. Position your heart to value knowing God

Prayer is not an irksome task, it is a rewarding and beautiful moment of fellowship with the living God.  The greatest reward of prayer is not getting things you need, but getting to know God.  In the Gospel of John, Jesus declares that to know the Father is to have eternal life.  Let me get this straight, I BELIEVE IN HEAVEN, and I am very set on that that doctrine.  Yet the idea of heaven isn’t enough to motivate people to the cross, or to sustain a life with Christ.  Romans 2:3 reveals that the goodness of God leads men to repentance, so naturally leading people to our loving Father is the only motivation to the cross.

Motivate yourself with the glorified resurrected christ and position your heart to realize that God is amazing.   If God doesn’t become personal, you won’t live a full Christian life.  You can live your life, go to heaven when you die, but you won’t know God whilst doing it.  You also will find it difficult to share the gospel because God reality can only come through knowing God deeply.

“God is love“
1 John 4:8 NKJV

3. Fall in love with the father

Have you ever tried to be intimate with someone that you had some issues with?  One of the barriers I find that people have is that they are confused about who God is, and wonder why He does certain things in the bible and in their life.  You don’t need to know the answers to all the deep questions to fall in love with God.  We are often very intellectual and heady with God, but He just requires us to approach Him like a child with an open heart.

“Let no one deceive himself.  If anyone among you seems to be wise in this age, let him become a fool that he may become wise.”
1 Corinthians 3:18 NKJV

4. Don’t get too intellectual, unless it pushes you to God

Being intellectual doesn’t make you full of the Holy Spirit.  Knowing sound doctrine alone doesn’t radically change the way you walk, and make the world fall in love with Jesus.  We actually need to become like a child with innocence and approach God humbly.  Remember that to grow with God, you don’t need to understand everything.  God will reveal things in timing, so don’t make things bigger than they are because you have a mind.  Let the peace of God allow you to not know everything with prayer.  Remember that God knows everything, and we need to empty ourselves of presumption, so he can fill us with His wisdom.

5. Know that God is better than you think

I tell you the truth, God is perfect, and He knows everything that you need.  Set your mind on this fact, that God is better than you could ever imagine.  Meditate on His goodness as revealed by the word,submitting your thoughts to the wisdom of the scriptures. Let the Holy Spirit grow the meaning of who the father is in your heart.  Holy Spirit is here to reveal Jesus to our hearts, so allow Him to work in your heart the goodness of God.

“By the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace toward me was not in vain; but I labored more abundantly than they all, yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.”
1 Corinthians 15:10 NKJV

6. Communicate the fathers heart to yourself

We grow by grace through faith.  It’s that simple.  When you stretch out your heart to believe in God simply, grace empowers you to walk out what truth calls you to.  I use growth as an example, but this is a great place for intimacy with God to transform who you are through communion.

My simple exercise to grow intimacy with God

To show you how I learned to commune with God, I am going to use Ephesians 1:3.

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ
Ephesians 1:3 NKJV

Step 1: Read the bible, respond with your heart, and stir yourself up if necessary

I read the scriptures, and then I allow my heart to enjoy the truth of God’s word.  I may just read a few words, and wait.  Sometimes I stir myself up, and pray “God, this isn’t big enough in my heart.  I’m not getting it.  Make this really big inside my heart, and let me mind catch up with my spirit.” I pray that out of sincerity, and God just lavishly brings depth into the scripture.

Step 2: Apply the scripture to yourself from a position of faith, not lack.

After I read the scripture, I respond with my heart like this “God, I thank you that you are blessed.  You allow me to bless you just like the apostle Paul.  I don’t know what it fully means to bless God, but I want to know!  I thank you for the privilege of blessing you with my praise, and prayer.  Thank you father that you have blessed me with every spiritual blessing.  You don’t hold anything back from me.  The mystery has been revealed, you have given me everything I need to serve you.  I love you so much because you are a good king, and you never leave me without provision.”

Step 3: It’s not a formula, it’s persistence

There isn’t a formula.  It’s not like if you do this 5 times you will just be flowing in prayer, though it does happen like that sometimes.  Don’t make it a formula.  If you don’t have breakthrough, keep going.  Remember, even if you don’t see any fruit, faith is more powerful when the evidence isn’t there and you persist anyway.  We are running a race, don’t get distracted.

Step 4: Start immediately

Start praying, and getting to know God today.  The key is that you respond from your heart, and let it be natural.  Overtime, it becomes more natural.  Sometimes you can just turn on some good music, and just meditate on God.  It should be different all the time, but to start is the first step.

There is no format to growing in relationship with God.  Holy Spirit is a person and we grow to know people over time through continuous contact.  If we want to preach the gospel, and walk like Jesus we must learn to pray.

“Everybody wants a king like Jesus. If we represent him well, they’ll want His body too.”
Bill Johnson, Bethel Church